How To Worry Less About Whether People Like You
In this video from The School of Life, philosopher Alain de Botton explores why our brains jump to that thought so quickly. “The question feels so significant because, depending on how we answer it in our minds, we will either take steps to deepen the friendship or […] immediately make moves to withdraw from it, so as to spare ourselves humiliation and embarrassment,” he says. Instead of assuming a defensive position—thinking people are judging us to be uninteresting or unworthy of their attention—de Botton suggests we take the offensive and make the first attempt to connect....